As I think about love, I remember having a conversation with a male friend about this topic.
Love is such a small word, but it’s so complex, and depending on the person, it can be difficult to define.
We often learn love from the environment we’re in it, whether we received it and was allowed to show or if we didn’t see it all, or if we knew a person loved us, they just never showed it.
Despite how you grew up, a lot of women want to experience love. No, not love from a parent, child, or friend, but love from a man. Do we know why this is?
Recently, I was complaining about being in my late twenties and although I’m on the right career path, I’m single with no prospects for my future husband or a man to be the father of my future children. So I was asked, “Why do you want love and what do you want from?” This question had me speechless, which is very rare. I know that I want love so I won’t be alone as my age continues to increase and friends and old peers begin to have kids, tie the knot, or both and I feel like I’m missing out on something so wonderful in life. I want to be able to share my life with someone else other than my family. That’s why I want love, but I wasn’t able to clearly answer the second the part of the question, “Why do you want it?” My respond was, “What woman doesn’t want love?” I answered the question with a question because I don’t know how else to answer it.
We [women] complain about men and how they’re not ready for love or ready to take the next step, but maybe it’s us? Maybe we don’t know what we want and when someone does come around who could be what we want, we turn them away, because we’re scared. We’re scared that he may hurt us, or damage, or love us!
Women want so much from men physically, but when the time comes, often we put on a shield and scare them away.
So, I ask you why do you want love and what do want from it? Are you willing to give a man a try who wants to love or will you push him away- until he feels hurt and helpless?