I see people all the time showing of their MK, Jordan’s, Coach, Chanel, etc. I believe most people do it for show, they want attention and compliments, so they brag.
The truth of the matter is the people that’s giving you all these compliments and showing love to your swag don’t care about the person underneath all of those clothes and luxary items. Yeah, they show love, and you may even make a few “friends” from the labels but they don’t care about you. Your real friends don’t give a damn what you drive, who you wear, what’s on your feet, etc. they’ll ride for you no matter what.
I say all this to say stop buying things trying to impress people. At the end of the day, when all that stuff comes off all you got is you! Labels mean nothing.
Have you ever heard Elle Varner’s “Not Tonight?” No, its not a remake to Lil Kim’s Not Tonight!
Varner’s song applies to me when it comes to me being interested in a guy and I guess not having courage to step to him and say “Hey, my name is LA and I think your kind of fly.”
My advice to you and is just do it. I’m getting better with it- we’ll maybe not. I do think about doing it though. When a guy asked why I won’t approach a man, my response was nice and simple. “I don’t like rejection.” By the way, this is a guy I was attracted to. He said “But what if I was just as interested in you and you miss out on something good?” That got me thinking- is it really so bad for a woman to approach a man? After all it is almost 2018 and we’ve all (women) rejected men without considering their feelings, so is really doing too much to approach a man? We’ll get our feelings a little, lose a little face and then we’ll get over it. Right?
Would you or have you approached a man and did all of the initiating? Can you comfortably be the pursuer?
You know how your doctor will tell you just by walking for at least 30 minutes a day can change your health? She/He isn’t exaggerating. I’ve been walking for thirty minutes a day and I feel so much better on the inside. My blood pressure (which is sometimes high) is normal. I eventually want to do more than just walking, but as of right now, I’m okay with that. So try walking for 30 minutes a day (on your lunch, around the office, etc.) and if you can’t do 30, try 15.
Remember your doctor isn’t telling you all of this because it’s beneficial (health wise) to them.
Women, stop allowing people to make you feel bad for being single and childless. The most common question I get asked is “When will I see a husband and some kids?” Then they like to assume I’m “lonely” because I live alone.
Just to confirm lonely as defined by The Webster is “sad because has no company or friends.” Alone is defined as “having no one else present; on ones own” or “single.”
We have to stop letting people influence our feelings towards relationships,life, and building a family. If you’re not for that lifestyle, then don’t get in to it. Most of the people who’s encouraging it won’t be there when you need them, some just want to see your struggle, and some will be there for you, but not how they’re claiming they will be.
Live life and build at your own pace. You’re the only who has to live that life everyday.
I ask this question because the holiday season is here and this is when we begin to hear all of the amazing “Pay it Forward” stories and realize despite popular belief, there are still good people in our world.
I witnessed this last night. I was at Walmart and there was a woman and her infant son in line in front of me. She had a few things in her cart- milk, pampers, etc. but when she went to try to pay, her card wouldn’t work- she tried a few times. She knew she had the funds but for some reason it wasn’t going through. I was calculating in my head to see if I could afford to help. A woman, who was behind me, walked up, and handed the cashier $20 to pay for the woman’s things. I was surprised, I’d never witnessed an act like that before. I was even happy. The woman just smiled and said “Happy Holidays” and allowed her to keep the change.
These kind of stories are happening every day and I just want to know if people like that woman, pass on the joy and give if they can.
This season, I thought my way of giving back was donating to St. Margaret’s House and picking and angle off of the The Kroc’s Christmas tree, but I think I can do more than (and you probably can too). So when you see someone who may be in a bind and struggling a bit, help them out and maybe, just maybe they’ll pay it forward.